Suzanne Venker is the voice of reason about modern man woman relationships

Suzanne Venker is a welcome voice of reasoned

argument in the gender situation, nay crisis of today

In 1976 the equality act came into being in the United Kingdom. Designed to end discrimination between men and women, it solved some problems and created a minefield of litigation cases and situations where women wanted to act like men.

The 'stay at home wife' situation became negated,

largely through high housing costs meaning both partners had to work

Gone or going was the notion of the stay at home wife. The 70's had brought in a burn the bra militancy in which women demanded 'rights.' In some respects, they were needing the balance redressed, but as we have seen things have swung too far the other way.

Feminism at its worst

The 1980's brought us a decade of the 'young professional woman.' A decade where women came to the fore in business and led business.

Power dressing with big shoulder pads and big balls attitudes, big legal cases of discrimination and the 'have it all' new generation of women, juggling childcare, a high profile job and a marriage were the new normal.

The women were largely being sold a lie. The glossy magazines relentlessly pumped out issue after issue of girl power edicts, but the reality was not an orgasm every time you had sex, it was a general decline into Wine, for the women who wanted it all but the reality was that they were just worn out by trying to juggle too many things.

Suzanne Venker can see that it is not possible to have it all in the way it was being 'sold' to women. She is taking a more realistic and sensible approach and has a welcome input and outlook. She is saying the things that women need to listen to.

The future of humanity is about working together to reduce our consumer addictions, to care more for people and if we don't mend the man woman relationship situation, we are likely to expire due to lack of replacements.

The American Indian people had a great approach to the man woman relationship, they found boundaries and regarded the Earth as a mother, nurturing and creating life and the sky as the father.

Russell Means, American Indian activist and speaker of much sense

The Indian peoples built a great nurture based clan system that looked after young and old and those in need. The women were accorded respect and the man and woman were equal parts, like the bow and arrow, one is not much use without the other.

The late Indian activist Russell Means said of feminism, why was it necessary for Women to want to be like men? Of course the Chief Sitting Bull had drawn an obvious conclusion in his quote above many years before. Eagles do not have to be Crows.

One does not want to go back to a situation where women were treated as second class citizens, you only have to look at the Middle East to see that situation is alive and well there, sadly.

That is where the hard ball feminazis should be directing their efforts to helping their sisters there, not picking on easy targets in the West.

You only have to look at the dating site profiles to see why some women are 'Seeking Mr Darcy,' no, you're just seeking a fantasy, lady. Men are turned off by some women who think they are able 'to get' by hard bargaining.

That's why many men seek women to date from other countries, places where the rules are different. Now women are wondering why they don't get asked on dates or asked out.

The reality is most men don't want what they're selling. They think they can still have it all, but the reality is men do not want a finger wagging hardballer. You don't get that from a Thai bride.

Now the hardballers are left retreating to 'girls nights out' clasping at their white wine in glasses and going home alone. Some years ago, I started receiving a round Robin email from a person that worked with my mother as my mother didn't have email or use a computer.

What I got on a weekly basis was a man hating set of 'jokes' (I call them that with some reservation), in the end I got so fed up with this childish situation, I took issue with the sender. I got really annoyed with one of the missives and said that they ought to grow up and that the man woman problems were being created by this sort of thinking, strangely I never got any more of these emails.

If women get on through their own merits, fine, I have no problem with that. If they work for success and get it, fine. I only have issue with the ones that are power crazy zealots.

Women are being bombarded with a constant 'look good, feel good' barrage of adverts, they fail to look at what they have and enjoy it, they are striving to achieve what is most cases a 'what they don't have ' or being sold to as 'what they need' must haves that is the problem.

Men are now confused as to what these women want, they see a 'hard shell' that seems to be self sufficient and can get by without their help, even denying help. What do they do?

The attitude of some women towards men and their interests is quite sad. If a man likes his cars, sport or hobby, as long as it is not harmful and he enjoys it, so what? As long as the woman in his life is respected, loved and cared for what is the problem? The man it seems.

The problem is that the feminists see themselves as victims of nature and victims of nurture. In the American Indian society women nurture and have a very respected role, in western society, women are told to have it all and it they can't, they employ people to  'do' for them, a housekeeper, child minder, dog walker etc, etc. so they can.

That is 'having it all' that is not having a man and woman rubber band relationship of give and take, sharing. More an 'I am a woman, I am in charge, I can do all this.'

You can only spin so many plates, before they start to crash to the ground.

Keep talking Suzanne, we need a voice of reason to help right things.

Return to Vagenda - because you've gone too far - 40 years of equality

Well, I think this says it all...

Just that as a man I would be criticised for saying it

So 40 years after the Equality act came into being, how have we fared? There is some debate that women are still under represented in some situations, less well paid than men in the same jobs and discrimination seems to still exist, sometimes.

But, as Barbara Ehrenreich has stated above, some women have just gone 'too far' and have become like men. The late American Indian activist of the Lakota people Russell Means stated something along the same lines as Barbara Ehrenreich, that women had just 'become like men.'

In the American Indian society there was always a reverence for the female, the Earth was described as Mother Earth. The Indians had a greater understanding through their spiritual based belief of the role of things. I think they had it right.

Organised religion belief systems have done much damage by their dogma, take those that deny the use of contraception, they not only condemn women to years of childbirth and child care, they create in often poor areas of the world more poverty by extra mouths to feed where this is completely unnecessary.

The American Indians did use natural family planning and as such maintained more viable communities which did not suffer because of lack of resources.

The American Indians had an appreciation of the man and woman relationship

This was how their society was able to function so well for all, for centuries

It served them well enough

You don't have to be anything that you are not

A mere 3 years after the Equality act, Britain got its first female Prime Minister in Margaret Thatcher. She was the right person at the right time to sort out a country that had just about become beyond repair thanks to strikes and the previous government.

Mrs Thatcher was the person who showed the rest of the world that Britain was open for business and with the success of the Falklands campaign, that Britain could not be messed with. This was one opportunity where a woman could behave robustly because it was the right thing for the right occasion.

Margaret Thatcher may have made some unpopular decisions

but then again, Medicine doesn't always taste nice

I had a lot of respect for her in her heyday

Snowflake generation upstarts do just this, sadly...

They should stop hitting easy targets like Western men

and direct their efforts to furthering women's rights in the Middle East

It is now time for a re evaluation, the balance seems to have swung too far the other way. Do you know I was pushed out of a job recently because a female Director wanted 'an all girl office.' Well she got that and her sales dived back downwards I have heard.

She announced she was taking over Sales and Marketing of which she had no experience and which was quickly apparent, I had 20 years experience. So she engaged a female friend of hers to advise them on this area.

Feminism at work? Well if that's how it is, you can keep it. I have worked with women for over 30 years and have never had any experience like this in any other job, thankfully. This included service in the Police where I worked with women at Senior rank with no issues.

We are approaching a time where things in our world will have to change for the future if we are to survive as a species. This means we are also going to have to revise our way of operating as a species and as men and women and to re-evaluate where we are going.

One thing I have noted in mostly female offices is sometimes a woman saying 'I'll have to get a man to do that.'

So I guess until someone invents a vibrator that can also put up shelves, men still have some relevancy.

How Maggie Thatcher saved Britain and was our best post war Prime Minister

Margaret Thatcher was never short of something to the point to say

Maggie Thatcher was the greatest post war Prime Minister that Britain has had to date. The Grocer's daughter from Grantham, Lincolnshire, who achieved a university degree before having a family and entering politics, that's quite a story for a start, but then to become Britain's first female Prime Minister and to be re-elected three times was truly outstanding.

Becoming leader of the then opposition in 1975, she faced a Labour party that was failing miserably, the country was in massive debt and industrial action led to thousands of workers on strike frequently.

The 1970's was a decade of industrial turmoil with Unions calling out workers on strike almost on a weekly basis, industries which included nationalised concerns such as British Rail, British Leyland and others were plagued by strikes often leading to power black outs as other unions joined in the industrial action. 

Britain was becoming a laughing stock and needed a firm hand to take back control and shake Britain into a more business like fashion. Margaret Thatcher stepped up to the plate to become Conservative leader and won the 1979 general election. She was the person to do that.

The Labour party brought the country to near bankruptcy by 1979

The 1978 'winter of discontent' when rubbish piled up in the streets and bodies were left unburied, was a tipping point when all right thinking people said 'enough.' Worse still was the spectre of a country that was almost broke, a typical symptom of Labour governments since WW2, not least ending in the 2005 election year with Labour leaving behind the biggest defecit on record, having been £40 Billion in the black when it took office under Blair.

The so-called 'loony left' of the Kinnock era labour years

helped to make the Labour party unelectable for 18 years

The remedy to the years of Labour was for Mrs Thatcher to shake the situation by the collar and give the bad tasting but necessary medicine of cuts in costs and restructuring of the country.

She was blamed for years afterwards with accusations of 'Thatcher's cuts' by the lefty media and mouthpieces, but these cuts were necessary thanks to the profligacy of the Labour years of mismanagement.

It was not an easy or popular choice, many left wingers over the years since have blamed cuts in the 1980's as 'Thatcher's cuts,' this is unfair as she inherited a legacy of disaster from Labour and the solution was not to just keep setting fire to £5 notes to feed the situation but to put the fire out.

Coming from a working class background, from a household with a father who ran a shop, gave Margaret Thatcher a sound grounding in budgeting, financial prudence and business common sense. As a housewife and mother, she had no doubt had to budget and manage a house and extended the remit to managing a country.

A Royal Wedding in 1981 of Prince Charles and Lady Diana Spencer gave Britain an opportunity to celebrate and put the bad times aside for a while.

Hard choices had to be made in the early Thatcher government years

So with a country staggering back to life, Margaret Thatcher's first major test came with the invasion of the Falkland Islands in 1982. The Argentinian military 'Junta' government led by General Galtieri had decided that it was going to take back the Falkland Islands off South Georgia in 1982 by force, a disputed in their view territory that the Argentinian's called 'Las Malvinas.'

A hastily assembled British task force was mobilised towards the islands which had been invaded. It would be the test of Margaret Thatcher's mettle and lead to what Roy Hattersley called 'the Maggie Moment' which a young MP Tony Blair saw when she secured victory in the Falklands and he wanted to achieve, no doubt he hoped Iraq would give him this situation, as we have seen, it did not and assured his legacy was toxic.

Royal Marine Commandos on the way to the next objective in the Falklands 1982

The Falklands campaign was no easy walkover and during the military campaign, during which Margaret Thatcher worked 20 hour days and was in constant communication with the military commanders.

Outstanding feats of endurance were the order of things, from the relay flight of Vulcan bombers who flew to bomb the runway at Port Stanley involving multiple refuelling by service aircraft which showed the Argentinians that this was no walkover, to the forces who made their way over inhospitable mountains to Port Stanley, showed how this war was going to end.

Margaret Thatcher visits the Falkland Islands post conflict

The British forces although outnumbered and supplied as best as could be done, achieved victory, routing the largely more numerical but less well trained conscript Argentinian forces.

At the end of the situation it would be a great achievement that showed the world that Britain was in no way finished and was led by a very capable leader who also happened to be a woman. Another first, being that Margaret Thatcher was also the first war time woman leader since Boadicea.

Michael Foot in a real 'Donkey Jacket' on a 'Ban the Bomb' march in the 1950's

The public relations coup that followed the Falklands showed what this new government could do and the first general election fought against Labour now led by Michael Foot was a clear victory for the Conservatives, not helped by the hapless Mr Foot's said to be less than successful appearance at the Cenotaph in a duffel coat which the press jumped on as disrespectful. 'Michael Foot in a Donkey Jacket' became the soundbite of the day.

Michael Foot at the Cenotaph with Mrs Thatcher, in the often misquoted 'Donkey Jacket'

The 1984 Miner's strike

The next major test of the Thatcher administration was the 1984 Miner's strike brought about by the National Union of Mineworkers, led by Arthur Scargill. After the strikes of the 1970's, the economic consequences of these actions was putting Britain at a disadvantage and legislation was brought in to deal with the ease with which strike action could be called.

NUM Leader Arthur Scargill arrested for obstruction during the strike

The strike led to a number of pits being closed and the imports of cheaper and lesser quality coal was at the foot of it. Attempts to 'spider' out the strike to include other unions to bring the country to a halt were not successful. Although the strike was broken, the political costs would be high, but not immediately and would be a toxic legacy. The economic reasons for cheaper imports should have been set aside to secure jobs in Britain first. 

Ken Livingstone, left wing leader of the GLC (Greater London Council),

who was ousted from office by Margaret Thatcher in 1984

Liverpool's Leader Derek 'Deggsy' Hatton who was ousted under a witch hunt

of the so-called 'Militant Tendency' brand of politics by the Labour party

Ken Livingstone, Neil Kinnock and pop stars and celebrities who were part of the

'Red Wedge' movement, which attempted to galvanize, interest and politicise youth

into an interest in politics by the attractions of music and alternative comedy.

Labour was an alternative comedy under the Foot and Kinnock leaderships.

Margaret Thatcher was not a stranger to question time invective from the opposition

The British economy suddenly grew in the early 1980's from 1984 and as such a new possibility of wealth came to the country for the first time since the 1960's. An almost 'greed is good' unreconstructed attitude was jumped on by the left as a symptom of 'Thatcher's Britain,' but it was largely the petulant rhetoric of class warriors who didn't have the nous to make a quid, but were happy enough to leech off the state whilst making their anti-establishment feelings known. Class War was here.

The unpopular Poll Tax sowed the seeds of Margaret Thatcher's demise

Although for some years Margaret Thatcher enjoyed popularity and success, things conspired to challenge her. The Westland affair which involved the sale of a UK helicopter company was unpopular and was investigated, there was an enquiry involving ministers such as Michael Heseltine and Margaret Thatcher's authority was challenged, although she survived.

The Iraq 'Super Gun' story also threatened to cause problems, but it was the unpopular Poll tax that was the ultimate factor in her eventual downfall. A change from rates levied on the house by its value only, was changed to being levied on the number of the persons in a house, regardless of the rateable value of the property.

Thus many citizens were drawn into paying the tax, which was fairer, but the rate at which it was charged was unpopular and was set by local councils. It was to be rolled out in Scotland first, but it was dropped on the whole of the UK instead and was so unpopular, it led to rioting in London. Even years later, the local authorities were still chasing evaders from the Poll Tax through the courts.

The left wing Media portrayed Margaret Thatcher as the 'Iron Lady.'

That defeat aside, Margaret Thatcher continued to work on and helped to broker the peace with the Soviet Union in the Gorbachev era that led to the collapse of Communism and the Berlin Wall that had divided Europe since 1961 and the nominal street border before that had divided Europe since 1945.

Margaret Thatcher lampooned in puppet form on the popular program 'Spitting Image'

She was being asked 'What about the vegetables?' (meaning the Cabinet members)

to which she replies 'Oh,they'll have the same as me.' 

One of Margaret Thatcher's successes was to introduce competition into broadcasting, which led to production companies often set up by television performers such as Mel Smith and Griff Rhys-Jones (Talkback), producer Geoffrey Perkins (Tiger Aspect) amongst the others which broke the monopoly of the major television franchises of the BBC, ITV and Channel 4 as program makers, back in the day when the UK had only 4 channels! Hard to believe now, but true.

Meryl Streep who portrayed Margaret Thatcher on film

In 1990, the reign came to an end with Margaret Thatcher leaving Downing Street as Prime Minister and leaving Britain in far better shape than she found it, a country now full of hope, prosperity and with a future. A far cry from the basket case near broke rubbish tip that Labour had bequeathed it.

The so-called 'New Labour' often touted as 'Blue Labour,' swept to victory in 1997 as the dithering John Major funked the Europe situation, allowing his vote to be diluted by the Referendum Party of James Goldsmith.

Thus, Labour inherited an economy and treasury balance £40 Billion in the Black, which it would in its 3 terms squander and leave us with a multi trillion pound deficit thanks to the usual Labour mismanagement and financial incompetence, the largest financial deficit in history.

'Blue Labour' under the mentorship of Peter Mandelson and others, realigned the Labour party away from the cloth cap and whippet image to a more urban, metropolitan style, building on capturing a metrosexual audience.

Playing to a media with large sections of left leaning supporters, it enjoyed time leading the country, to the type of disaster worse than the Callaghan years, with Tony Blair committing the UK to wars in Iraq and Afghanistan that cost billions and destabilised areas like Iraq and Libya.

One thing Margaret Thatcher did was without shouting it, she raised the profile of the woman who could achieve and being from ordinary roots, her message was 'If I can do it so can you.'

She should be regarded as a feminist icon but unfortunately she is on the wrong side of the political fence for most, the women of the left sneer, but may secretly admire her for what she achieved. Her mildly hectoring approach was more than a match for the opposition who really had nothing to offer except more of the same failures.

Margaret Thatcher's legacy is a mixed bag, but she was the right person at the right time to deal with some very serious situations that beset Britain. We have much to thank her for, but not everyone would do that. 

Without her, this country would have fared less well and not be in the place it is today.

Genderbending chemicals leading to nasty and aggressive females and gender identity crisis issues

The Who song asks 'Who are you?' but should that be 'what are you?'

Five generations ago the female hormonal contraceptive pill was introduced which was a major breakthrough in birth control, but what have been the side effects and are we now seeing payback time for the cost of sex without consequences?

There is no doubt that the pill was a liberator for women but the flipside of the coin is the accumulation of synthetic hormones in our water supplies, accumulation in the organs of the body, the effects on the male population and the effects on the human brain, without forgetting the real warning sign writ large - the gender neutral Numans generation.

When you consider that marine life is now being affected by these supersynth chemical cocktails, every female ejects x per litre into the water at least 8 times a day, that builds up, over the billions by years multiplyer, those synths are not being neutralised, hence they are building and building in our water supplies. And in our bodies.

Peter Frampton's 1970's song 'I want you to show me the way' shows us

the gender bending situation is leading to a 'which toilet' crisis,

where there is little option of a so-called 'third way.'

We are seeing a problem especially in large urban areas where water is recycled, it can surely be no mistake the coreallation between falling sperm count since the pill introduction.

The brain effects are worrying and can be 'visible' believe it or not. Your brain essentially is a chemical engine that relies on chemical checks and balances to work, introducing 'alien' versions of present chemicals can lead to unbalance. Manic Depression, or the trendier term 'Bi-polar disorder' is because chemicals within the brain lead to imbalance and as such, erratic and depressive behaviour exhibited by the human.

What essentially the pill chemicals does is take the normal levels of some present chemicals and dumps in a cocktail that overloads the body and tricks the brain into producing chemicals which prevent conception implantation.

Now we base this on a 'low dose' situation, but like Diesel fuel on the skin, it is accumulative, especially over time and when fertility stops, a sudden 'deceleration' occurs a bit like going 'cold Turkey' and then you may need an HRT fix to ease that path.

Recently, I have known of two cases where contraceptive implants into the arm have led to women experiencing mood swings and a confused state with concentration problems being identified. Once they had these removed, they were fine.

We always have had people 'cross dressing' for want of a better word, not staying with 'stereo typical' modes of clothing as an example, trousers on women excepting. But we are now seeing a sort of 'confusion' in boys who are said to 'identify' elsewhere from the male development, wanting to wear typically female associated clothes and choose female associated toys, as we would generalise.

This is creating a sort of third gender path, a 'numan' that must be the result of the chemicals tripping the brain neuron relays. The recent ramping up of these cases must mean that the levels are rising to a point where tripping out of the normal relay positions is becoming more of a 'normalcy,' in some people this may not cause any 'situations,' but in those who have a slight chemical difference to start with, the effects are more obvious.

This may be a result of a generation by generational accumulation of these chemicals passed through the female to the female and into the eggs of each generation, building in a minute imbalance which has now reached dangerous levels.

Indeed, not just contained in each generation, but added to each new generation in a drip feed situation. Essentially, stockpiling and adding to the problem. 

We should understand that although we are all basically the same constructionally, the minute detail differences in this case the chemical balance levels in the brain and body generally, means that some people may be 'tripped' by external ingestion of chemicals, over time. They may be more susceptible to subtle changes, whereas others need more 'dosage' to become affected.

But we are also seeing another dimension to the chemical situation, which is the angry and aggressive female. Having observed women since the 1970's in social and work situations it is interesting to note an attitude and behaviour change. The women then were not so 'confrontational,' they just seemed to conduct themselves differently.

Bitchfight alert!

This must be due to the accumulative chemical situation. It was rare to read in the papers or see on the news in the 1970's women becoming violent and killing by women was very rare. Now there has been some sort of shift, like an earth plate has moved, releasing something toxic. We are seeing more and more woman responsible for violence, including road rage, murders and not just reactive killing but planned and malice aforethought killings and violence. Occurences like this used to be very rare. Not so much now.

In the 1970's behavioural terms like 'ladylike' and 'unladylike' were often bandied about and such typically unrepresentative behaviour was not common. I have seen for myself that there has been change over this time and not for the better, so what is the cause? It can only be accumulative levels of chemicals in the body. And those must be male hormone synthetics which are generating the anger? From the contraceptive pill.

When you do the math as they say, you look at all the parts in the equation and the common linking factor is the chemical cocktail that has been growing in female ecosystems for about the last 60 years.

That is without the inclusion of incidental causations such as leaching of compounds from decomposing plastics and the ingestions from chemicals released from them into the ecosystem.

We need to get this situation in hand before we are no longer able to reproduce.

The Vagenda - when feminist office politics backfires and discriminates against men

Men are more likely to be victims of sex discrimination these days

I have worked in various job roles over the last thirty plus years since leaving school, these have included front-line Policing, manufacturing industry, service industry and both private and government corporations.

The thing I observed where the most female conflicts were, were not with workplace interactions with females and males, but between females, vadge on vadge conflict, to put it bluntly.

Until I started working with my last company just over a year or so back, I had never experienced any problems in workplace relations with female colleagues. And I think that is a good reflection on the workplace, because this ensures that people are focused on work and the health of the company through productivity and profitability, rather than conduction of either covert or overt internecine warfare.

In policing, I worked with a number of women from different ranks from the officer on the beat to senior officer level staff, even having women as supervising officers and without any problems or issues.

This was an environment where unexpected external events might shape your working day, so the policing arena provided a massive range of potential work occurrences and situations that might present themselves, from a vulnerable missing person to an armed robbery as examples.

The office environment in civilian life was a jungle of a different type to the concrete jungle I had worked in during my policing career. As someone with experience of investigation, observation and information gathering, I was ideally placed to watch and learn.

The only times when there was any obvious agenda is when a business was realigning itself and looking for excuses to try and push staff out by certain behaviour patterns, I only had this previously once a long time ago when I was employed under false pretences, to build (actually it was to rebuild) the marketing arm of a company where the previous contender had left I was told.

What I wasn't told was that the person had only gone on maternity leave and the company was hedging on someone getting the marketing effort turned around and driving sales up which I did.

However, the management then decided because things were going well, to bring this person back into the company part time, 3 days a week and probably for less pro-rata  pay and they decided to make me redundant.

That was their problem and the business did not prosper after I left. In fact, I think that arm of the business I was in is no longer.

My most recent experience of discrimination was when I was working in sales. I worked in an office with a majority of women staff, with no problem whatsoever. My (female) sales colleague although part time, had children still at school. We had a good working relationship and the sales turnover doubled in the time I was with the company. So do the math as they say.

However, a female director came back into the business having disposed of outside directorial commitments with external business interests. She then decided without any evidence of such experience, to take over the sales and marketing management of the company.

I had over twenty years of experience in sales, marketing and graphic design and would have been the ideal person to have taken on that role. That aside, it was immediately apparent that this director was just wildly thrashing about in the shallows to meet objectives, creating a lot of froth and discord but not much else.

Essentially for one example, I advised the director on a marketing visual that was to be sent out to prospects and customers as a proof had been sent around the office.

To be frank, as someone who has worked in print design, it was a disaster, the fonts were too small, didn't work in the colours chosen, the card chosen was for 'ethical' reasons and the colour used on a banner looked insipid. So I carefully advised on what I thought should be done to fix that. Looking back, this was obviously the start of my expertise being seen as a perceived threat.

About a month later, I heard this director in an unguarded moment say that she wanted 'an all girl office.' As I don't have a vagina, that did put me at something of a disadvantage. And you could see how this was going.

As part of my marketing activities, I used to send out communications to my target business sectors usually as letters with additional materials depending on the objective.

One day I was given a tranche of letters to sign to be sent out and I just happened to notice after the first couple that this wasn't my usual letter. So I asked the Admin assistant had there been a mistake in the letter printed? No, I was informed, she had been given it to print by this director, who had rewritten it.

This rang alarm bells immediately, for the simple reason that the carefully structured communication I had used successfully, was now nonsensical to the degree that the use of exclamation marks to reinforce statements, which were completely out of place with the message and not appropriate for the senior level contacts I was sending to.

The fact that this had been done without consultation was bad enough, but the end product devalued the profile of the company let alone create awareness of products I was trying to target my sectors with, which had been deleted from my letter.

The director, refusing it seems to use my skills and experience, engaged a female friend of hers to advise on marketing! A person, who had not any experience of their business, to which I had experience of their customer base, target audience, products and ideas of where to develop business for around a year. So this female director paid someone to reinvent the wheel.

The best was yet to come though, in a meeting with this female director, I was criticised for not taking all my holiday earlier in the year, I worked in a small office where at least half or more of the staff had school age children and my observation and feeling was that they should have priority for school holiday time leave because of these commitments for the obvious reasons. And I had no family commitments.

(The company had recently changed to another supplier of product and there was a range of product available that was obvious to fill a market sector that they were failing to secure business in due to cost.

Having analysed the typical customer spend and the type of customer, it was blindingly obvious to take this product base on and increase sales to another revenue stream, but oh no, I was told that would devalue their brand and they wanted to concentrate on high-end customers, which if this director had bothered to look at the sales analysis were responsible for relatively few sales per head in each week.)

But that seemed to cut no ice with this director and she went to try and throw stones with accusations that I didn't really want to be there and I should make up my mind what to do, i.e. she was wanting me to leave and making the meeting and her feelings more and more unpleasant by the minute, so with all that had gone on I decided to resign. Any person I relate this experience to is appalled by how I was treated.

Some have said why didn't you take a case against the company? The simple answer is that the swing door of sexism doesn't swing in my favour as a man usually.

But this isn't the end of the spiteful behaviour, when I signed on, the director who was also in charge of human remains chose to sit on a letter from the DWP for 6 weeks before responding to it, which was asking her to confirm why I had left their company. I stated to the DWP that I had been forced into resigning. This director stated allegedly that I had been made redundant. I saw this for myself on the DWP computer.

Not only that but the director chose to sit on my P45 which she had all the details for processing my tax affairs with, some six weeks earlier for a further six weeks plus after I had left. This is hardly what I would call adult behaviour or behaviour that is acceptable from a company director. And as I had done nothing wrong and helped the company double its turnover in a year, I fail to understand where this person is coming from or their anger?

This director clearly has issues and it makes no difference what the gender is, the behaviour clearly is not what I would call professional, from someone with an Oxbridge degree.

This sort of behaviour sets the equality arguments back. With equality, surely people should be working together constructively in their companies to go forward, not surely fighting like children in a playground?

Anyway, thankfully I am well rid of this director and I have not contacted anyone at the company since leaving, I have chosen to move on and find somewhere else to work, however I was refused two interviews recently one was because the female employer was looking for a young woman under 25 or a gay man ideally and the other job where the reason given was that 'they wanted another female to balance their office,' i.e. they wanted another female in their office not a bloke.

It doesn't bother me, if they have that mindset and employ on a pudenda agenda, then they will stand the chance of missing out on people with real life experience who might be able to do the job better? Their loss.

I would like to finish by saying that the majority of women I have worked with in professional life have been without any issues or problems towards me.

Clapham Omniblog - Feminism and the Front Bottom Agenda

In which Colin and Reg discuss the touchy and multi-faceted subject of feminism

*Please note the following is a verbatim transcription from the original pigeon cockerney*

Reg: Ere ere Col, ehhr see vis burd in ver fackin' Daiwy Miwwah, she derrn't arf lawk a fackin Femmnist.
Col: Corse she ezz a femmnist Reg, worll ett myte nort be fayre ter say itt, baaht eye woona fack it.
Reg: Yeh, enn wye Col, aah mawst orve veze fackin' femmnists lurken sehr fackin' aaglee? Enn sherz dressd aahp lyke a fackin' laybrer wiv a fackin' Dawnkee jakkit orn ernd fackin' daisy roots awn er plates.
Reg: Mybee vat kud be a refoosal ter be enn slayve ter fasshin ind'stree. Baaht eye sees yawr poyn', enn vat fackin' Barnet luks lyke it woz cut by fackin' Steevie Wunda  aater a few Lyte ayles.
Col: Fackin' ell myte, vatted fackin' turn ver fackin' cream sahr, auld Steevie's fackin' lacky ee ern't gawter look at vat fackin' aaglee Boat Race.
Reg: Wheyll, eye reckkins vat yer'd be aahnlyklee ter see a fackin' gud looker femmnist.
Col: Yeh, veeze femmists awl seem ter ave vat fackin' look abaht em lark summat jast pizzed in verr marfs. Worll, vat aynt err bad fing, cause eet least yerze gawt sum sorta erllee woarnin' systimm vat myte aahpflee sayve yer frahm makin' a fackin' baad mystake or a cant awyerself lay'err.
Reg: Yeh, yer cud be dahn Peckhim orve an evenin', say endd yerr cudda bean baahn' ett fackin' Lyte Ayles aw nyte, ernlee ter discuvva ett 'ime, vat yer aynt gerna gertcha knawb wet awr yer skroatim neever.
Col: Etts a fackin' straynge fyng vis femmism, eye means bernin veyr fackin' bras, fackin' nevvar faught vat wun frew did vey? S'problee why vey awl aave saggy frupnees nahr, eh?
Reg: Yeah well yer 'Merican Injuns as it awl sawted, vey darnt need femmism, cause befawr we awlls turned up over verr, vey had a yewtopin lifestyle, gawspel mate. It warz a perfick sercier'ee if yerz luks attit. Enn, vey nevvar add ner fackin' crahym or dicshuns ter drahgs or booze neeva, nawt entill we brort ett all aaver verre.
Col: It worz ver worze vat staahtid awl ovv vis femmism, cos verr bints gawt aht orve veyr aahses endd staahtid wurrkin' in fakr'ies and verr lyke. Enn orve cawse ven  vey woz bean payed fawr it enn vey cud see vat vehr was sumfing mawr ter lyve van jahst bean ern fackin' babay mashine enn skivvee.
Reg: Baaht vat wurnt a bad fing vough, eye finks it givumm sum indypendince, enn sahm sorta lyte aht verr ind orv ver tunnill, aahnlyke voze pawr fackin' byrds warts aht in ver Middull East, places lyke Saggy auld Labyeear and wear veyve gawt vat sharroni lawr. Aah meanz vatz wear yore fackin' Millicent femmists orta fack orf ahta enn der sammin; abaht vehr rytes fawr verr wimmin aht in vat sawter area.
Col: I fink vat verr pennjelum's swung ter farr verr ovva way nahr, enn vey are warn'in mawr van equil shayres. Eye aynt gort nahr prawblim wivv equil iffits fayre, baht vehr warnnin' ver fackin' moon an all, sum orv vese burds. Eye means fayres fayre, baaht arter vat, fack orf! Eh?
Reg: Enn veze femmists ahr bhangen awn abaht ahr veyrse a feared orve gettin' 'tacked, worl, ah mean who verr facks' bovvered abaht vem? Eye'd rarver aave a ham shank ova a fackin' Penn'haase awr summat wear verrs far betta lukkin byrds, enn vats anuvver fing, vey're awl cahvared inn fackin' 'atoos, enn prawblee gawt vehyr fackin jack enn danny's pierced wiv awl sorts a mittil stahff. Mahst be lyke a fackin Mawris darncer eff veyze gawta rahn fawr an baass owr summat.
Col: Caan yer ermajun aavin' ter give vat a bit orve yer Charlie Mingus rahhnd ver auld bull enn bush? Prawblee gawt a fackin' 'airee prudenda lyke a fackin' Ammerzinn rain fawrest eye mean yer's need ter ave fackin' Endyanna Jernes, ter ellp yer ter fahnd her fackin' Clittris, eh?
Reg: Aym nawt shore vat eyd worna, bet vat facking awld Rubicks orv errs derrnt arf niff. Be lahk verr dahstbinns aht Billensgayte in verr summa.
Col: Enn veys aahp fawr terkin yer ter ver awforritees en awl, eye means yer ownlee gawt ter sey vat a burd looks nahse enn ver fackin bitch'll aave yer awp in cawt fur urtt feelins or summat. Vey awta getta fackin' lyfe. Eff et worz a choyze orva burd lyke that or an ham shank, eyed give it sahm maggiking orv ver beans jischewer, laahk vat Garriff 'ahnt yewsed ter der awn vat cawfee advurt fawy yah fackin' Gawld Blehnd. Ett worz problee en curded messige ter vat Dyann Keen ter pull imm awf or summat, or maybe vats wort ee worz 'opin fawr, wheyll, eye wunnent err sed nawr ter vat. 
Reg: Wheyll, vats fer fing Col, eye mean back inver twennies, vem Suffreearrjetts vey'd der summink fackin' aaht rayjuss lahk frowin emmselves aahnder a fackin' awse at ver raycis awr ryden a fackin' buysyckul in fackin' bloomers or verr lyke, eye means awl veeze fackin' burds der nahdayze is fackin' bahnny rabbit abaht aahr fackin' aard dahnbye veyz aahr.
Col: Ackerchewllee, ez awl starten ter backfahr  awn vem, verr's plenny a burdz lyke, vat fink vat vese femmists are a bahnch orv fackin' wingjin cants, strait aahp. Eye means veyze aahr yer sortsa burdz vat yerrd lahklee get a fack orv off aas ter be said, baaht ett jast gahrs ter proov a poyynt vat awlvough veze femmists make a lort orv fackin' noyze, nawt awl wimmin, fank fack, awr fackin' femmists.
Reg: Eye fink ett awl gehrs back ter yer fackin' Millicent Tenency enn yer fackin' Labyerr Par'yy orve yer fackin' orly ay'ees, when awld Footy lawst cawntrawl orv izz par'ee. Enn, venn yore Ginja Winnbaag fackin' Kinnik, ee' carnt rainham inn neeva. Venn yerr add yer burds aht fackin' Greenimm Cawmin enn ett gawt in yer meeja, enn venn evry tina, deedree an 'arriott awl jamps awn verr bleedin' ban' waggin. Enn et givzem an ixkewse fer enny wahn orvem vat aynt normmill oar es a bit orva lezza p'raps? ter aven cawse ter fackin' davote veir 'ime 'oo case nah bloak wiv eeny fackin' sense err wornemm as a gawl frend.
Col: Enn vat fackin' mell awda bryde stahff enn forrin daytin soites azz awl gawt big bizzniss cawse bloaks is looking fawr a bint wots nort gonna be a fackin' frahnt bottim princess.
Reg: Enn voze facking prik teasis worts willen ter let yewse bye emm fackin' Chardnee awl fackin' nyte at sahm fackin' spensive Wahn bawr vat yewsed ter bee a fackin' bank awr summat yewsefull lahke, venn vey facks orf enn err tarxi lay'err, wheyyl, veyrr ver wans aaht wiv verr mates awn a frahday nyte crahn in terr ver fackin' Chardnee' coz nahr bloaks wann nuffin ter do wiv umm. Vey fackin' brawt vat awn emmsells, ennt vey? Backk ter ver fackin' Kit Kat shaffle awr wan orv vemm Ann Sammerses fackin mahlti speed vahbrayters wiv an addid clittris stimmerlater or summat wort eye dah nawr naffink abaht, eh Col?
Col: Vat ez ver nubb orv itt Reg, enn veyze awnlee gawna enn aahp lewsin aaht corse orve vehr aatterchewed, ryte?
Reg: Ryte, ryte enn ear's me fackin' stawp Col! Ta ra myte!